🌿 Why Pre-Marital Coaching Matters

 

Most couples spend months planning their wedding day  but very few spend time preparing for the marriage itself. The truth? A beautiful ceremony won’t sustain a lifelong commitment. We all like a good party, but it has no reflection on the viability of your marriage. Not even close.  Studies show that couples who engage in pre-marital counseling have a 30% higher marital success rate than those who don’t (American Psychological Association). Yet, only about 36% of engaged couples ever seek pre-marital guidance. And here’s the kicker: 50% of marriages end within the first 7 years largely due to unresolved communication issues, mismatched expectations, and unhealed emotional patterns that existed long before the wedding day. So if you had just talked about it, and chatted with me, well.... you hopefully won't be come one of those statistics! 

 

So this is where I come in. I’m Jessica Rae, founder of JRae Consulting, a Life Stylist & Consultant with a Master’s in Psychotherapy, certifications in Neuropsychotherapy, EMDR, and Past Life Regression Therapy, and training in Human-Centered Design from Stanford.  I also am trained by the Gottman Institue to help treat affairs and trauma.  My approach blends neuroscience, psychology, and holistic healing helping couples understand themselves and each other faster and deeper than traditional talk therapy often allows.

 

💖 The Truth About “The Hard Conversations”

 

You love each other but have you really talked about the things that make or break a marriage? Have you explored your attachment styles and how they show up under stress, during conflict, or when you don’t feel seen? Have you discussed what “cheating” means to you both .... emotionally, physically, or digitally? (Fun fact: nearly 70% of couples have never defined infidelity together until one of them accidentally crosses an invisible line. Which I can tell you, is not fun.... nope, it is not. Have you talked openly about sex, desire, and intimacy or what your expectations or needs are? Have you addressed your individual trauma or past pain that could quietly reappear in your marriage? Research shows that unprocessed trauma increases the risk of marital dissatisfaction by over 60%.  Most couples think they’ve “talked about everything.” But love languages, emotional triggers, communication blind spots, financial fears, and unmet needs can stay buried until life gets real.  My job is to help you uncover and heal those deeper layers before they become lifelong patterns.

 

🌌 How This Program Works

 

This 8-session program is designed to help you both gain clarity, confidence, and emotional readiness for the lifetime ahead. Each 50-minute session focuses on one of the most vital pillars of a thriving marriage.

 

💗 Personalized Structure: Every couple is different. I customize each session to your personalities, dynamics, and current relationship stage blending therapy-informed insight with practical, results-driven coaching.

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💗Thematic Sessions May Include: Attachment + Communication Patterns: How you both connect, withdraw, or repair after conflict. 

Emotional Regulation: How to calm your nervous systems (and each other’s) when stress hits.

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💗Boundaries + Trust: What they really mean and how to honor them without resentment.

 

💗Sex + Intimacy: A safe space to define what passion, pleasure, and safety mean for you both.

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💗Money + Values: How financial beliefs, habits, and fears shape the life you’re building.

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💗Family + Legacy: Understanding the unconscious scripts you’re carrying from childhood.

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💗Conflict + Repair: How to fight fair and heal fast.

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💗Future Visioning: Building a shared mission and partnership that truly aligns with who you both are.

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These are just a few topics but there are many, many more.  

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💫 Why Work With Me:

 

My clients often say, “You helped us understand each other in weeks, not years. "That’s because my approach isn’t fluffy or surface-level. It’s empathic but firm, intuitive but grounded in neuroscience, and laser-focused on results. I don’t just help you talk; I help you transform and connect. Marriage is one of the most profound journeys you’ll ever take. It deserves the same preparation, depth, and intentionality as any other major life investment.✨ 

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So lets get started....like, yes, now! Before the wedding!  Run, don't walk